Sacred Breast Massage
A Sacred Breast Massage is a ritual that allows the woman to receive sensual kundalini (sexual) energy and unconditional love from her partner. In this ritual, she is given time to explore her body without goals. The breast massage is a special type of tantric massage that focuses on the woman’s breasts, which are really the seat of her sexuality and arousal.
A tantric massage adds energy healing and tantric coaching to the ecstasy of receiving a nurturing and awakening sensual massage. It creates an environment in which a woman can release stress and feel more alive in her body while staying fully present to her sexual energy.
A Tantric massage is a first step in learning to be a sexual being without going into fantasy or trancing out. It teaches you how to truly feel your body as it is being touched and aroused sexually, to be in the present moment, aroused and alive.
Start your Sacred Breast Massage by creating a safe and luxurious space to perform the massage. You can have soft music playing and candles lit to create an opulent space. Prepare some snacks and drinks to nibble on in case you get hungry during or after the massage.
The receiver’s only job is to stay present to the touch that is being offered, and to breathe. Make this a deep circular breath, in through the nose and out through the mouth, with no pauses between the inhale and exhale. This breath helps keep you in the present moment and also helps move the sexual kundalini and emotional energy through your whole body.
The giver’s only job is to connect and touch in a way that feels good to the giver, not to the person who is receiving the tantric massage. This is one of the most important parts of giving anything. You want to touch your partner as if you are feeling a luxurious fur, and drinking in the sensations of how it feels to rub your hands along this fur. We do this for two reasons. First, if we touch from a place that feels good to us it will feel great to our partner. Second, when we wonder if our touch is feeling good then we are forced into our heads and out of our bodies. Tantra is the art of being sensually in our bodies, not in our heads.
Begin the massage with your lover lying on her belly. Although there are many different massage techniques (look at our tantric massage reference books), the most important thing is to touch more lightly and slowly than you are in the habit of doing. Bring your focus to the touch itself, and use the same circular breath that your partner is doing.
Whenever you catch yourself holding your breath, gently pause the massage and hold your hands still on your partner’s body. Take a deep loud breath, this will remind both you and your partner to breath. Explore his or her whole body as if you have never touched a body before. Linger wherever your hands are called to, move wherever you want to. This is a loving full body massage so don’t forget about those places that don’t often get touched, like the inner thighs, groin, and buttocks.
The back massage will come to a natural conclusion if you let go of any goals or time frames. When this happens ask your partner to gently roll over. This is a good time to offer some of those snacks or drinks that you have prepared. Begin the next stage of the massage with your hand resting in stillness on your partner’s heart. Spend a few moments breathing together simply feeling your heart connection. As you feel called, begin to explore the front of your partner’s body.
If a woman is receiving, then going slowly is the key. Exposing her breasts and genitals can be a very scary thing, even if you have been intimate for a very long time. Taking your time and making sure that your partner feels safe and warm is very important for her to be able to open to the tantric massage. Be sure to keep the room warm enough for her to be comfortable with being nude. Now that she is on her back, begin by massaging her breasts.
Use a slow and gentle touch that feels good to you. Don’t worry about arousing her, that is not your job. You can try simply cupping her breasts with your hands and feeling them as she breathes. Imagine that love is poring out of her breasts and into your hands. The breasts are the seat of a woman’s sexuality and need to be loved and honored before any other part of her body will open up to you.
The breast massage will come to a natural conclusion and you can begin to pay special attention to her belly from just below her rib cage to just above her pubic bone. You can move to gently massaging the yoni from here, or into slow and gentle lovemaking, or just end the breast massage ritual if that is what feels right to both of you.